What is the difference of showing that you care and being a stalker??

I am really interested in someone. We were only seeing each other for around 3 weeks. Things got a little complicated (she has a serious health condition) and I told her that I felt we shouldnt see each other again. I said that out of fear. She hung up on me before I could explain. I've called her a few times and left messages asking her to call, but no call. I've tried to explain that I said what I said out of fear but nothing has worked. I know she was really interested in me before all of this happened. I dont want to give up, but at the same time I dont want to look like a stalker. I was thinking about sending flowers, trying a new approach. Any suggestions? Should I just leave her alone? There is that old saying that you will never know until you give it your all... but I dont want to look psycho or desperate. Where do we draw the line?

What is the difference of showing that you care and being a stalker??
Be there when she needs you, like maybe if she got hurt by someone socially or physicaly. Help her with any trouble. Don't judge her by something that doesn't mean anything UNLESS you guys are going out like if maybe she talks to another guy (let her have her space). Call when you actually want to "hang out" with her or have something important to say. No "I'm bored" conversations, she might have something less boring or more important to do. Don't always go places with her alone (like ALL the time), join in with some friends so she doesn't feel the pressure that you're obssessed with her. Don't always make the plans, let others do the brain work and join later or "accidentaly" meet up or something. Girls can take the smallest things as a bad sign
Reply:awww....thats sweet. you're not being a stalker. just give her a call and tell her how you feel and what a big mistake it was to break up with her.....ect. don't just leave her alone if you really like her, and if she has a serious medical condition she could really use your support.


i hope she gets better...
Reply:definitely dont call her pshychotically...thats the number one wrong thing to do....just leave her a message and just let your heart out...girls like hearing all the mushy stuff...tell her how much u want to be with her and that breaking up with her was a big reality check for you..that you want to be with her...u dont know what u got until its gone....good luck with that
Reply:The diffrence is when you care, you give her some space to herself,and not follow 24/7.Then she'll get anoyed of you following her, and breathing down her neck all of the time (even though that is kind of nice!!!)Talk to this lady, see how she feels and work something out.
Reply:let her alone for a little while, then try to talk to her and explain your reasons for what you did
Reply:you made the choice by tell her you didnt want to see her again so you got your wish so let it go and move on before you go to jail
Reply:why did u say u shouldnt see each other again?


if she doesnt call u back, then maybe u should just leave her alone for a while..
Reply:She had a health issue and you dumped her. No wonder she doesn't want to talk to you, you treated her like crap. If you insist on speaking your mind, write her a letter. That way she doesn't have to look at you. But after the way you treated her, don't get your hopes up.
Reply:the difference between showing that you care and being a stalker is if you are a stalker you basically follow her around. I'm not saying that's true in all cases but in most it is. but if you send flowers that is not considered being a stalker. if it were me i would just leave a message on her answering machine and explain why you said it. that's all i know. good luck

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